The WAHM Balancing Act- Meet Becky Ollar

Updated on: by Becky Ollar

Hello. My name is Becky and I am a WAHM.
(Work at Home Mom)

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There should be a WAHM support group. WAHM’s are in a “club” all their own. We’re not just stay-at-home moms and we don’t leave home to go to work. Instead, we face the challenges of both of these. Sometimes, it seems like I don’t fit into any “mom” group completely because of this.

Balancing work and children is something that takes planning, scheduling, and flexibility all in one.  A WAHM, I have discovered, needs to be able to balance her time so that her children aren’t ignored, but neither is her work. It is something I still struggle with even after almost three years.

My journey as a WAHM started in 2008 when my husband and I found out we were expecting our first child. We were both public school teachers at the time (my husband still is) and the more we looked at the numbers, the more sense it made for me to be home with the baby. Daycare expenses would eat up nearly half of my salary, so if I could find a part-time work-at-home job, we would come out about the same budget-wise and we wouldn’t have strangers raising our child five days a week.

That is when I came across the idea of online teaching. I applied to a popular online university. I survived the interview process and completed most of my training before Christopher was born in August. I finished the last part of my training in November and went right to work facilitating writing classes. Because the classes are asynchronous, I can work in my classes anytime I want to. Usually, this ends up being during nap times and after my kids are in bed for the night. It makes for some late nights when grading big assignments.

I almost had the hang of things when it was just Christopher. Having a newborn and a 2-year-old definitely threw a kink into my routine. Here is the problem: my kids rarely nap at the same time. Christopher, who is almost three, and Ben, who is four months,have a bad habit of waking one another up. Most days, this makes it nearly impossible to accomplish any work during the day. Instead, I end up working late into the early morning hours (2 a.m. is my “normal” bedtime). This makes me less alert and crankier when the sun comes up and the kids are ready to play. I don’t like it.

How do you balance work and spending time with your kids?

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June 10, 2011 at 2:49 pm

When our son was younger I worked for West Corporation because I could create my work schedule.


June 10, 2011 at 2:51 pm

I work out of my home too with 3 young boys ages 5 and under. It’s tough to find a balance that meets everyone’s needs. I found that 30 minute time periods of work and then play work well for all of us. They do well with 3o minutes of free time, and I am able to accomplish a lot. Then I switch back and give them the attention and focus they need and deserve. I also have what I call a flexible schedule on our fridge mapping out our day… it really helps keep priorities in check and to make sure we get done what we set out to do! Best wishes and keep up the awesome work. Your kids are blessed to have you home with them 🙂

Miranda Grimm

June 10, 2011 at 3:02 pm

These are some fantastic tips! I have also found that writing down my goals in a flexible scheduling format helps me accomplish the most in a days time, without feeling overwhelmed.


June 10, 2011 at 4:17 pm

Being a work at home mom is like having a full time job on top of your full time job, so I totally get what you are saying. Finding one on one time with your kids while also trying to make money can be so difficult, and I struggle with it daily. Sometimes though I just have to forget the money and be a mom since that is my most important job and the whole reason I wanted to stay at home instead of go out to work in the first place. It’s really stressful juggling it all though, and I don’t think anyone really gets it unless they work at home too. Excellent post!